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Personal Angst

The Value of Wallowing

Have you ever been really disappointed about something and then had someone tell you to cheer up? How does it make you feel?  Generally speaking, telling someone to cheer up when they’re disappointed doesn’t work.  Instead of helping you cope with your emotions, telling you to cheer up is.

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What’s the Difference Between a Wedding and a Sales Meeting?

I recently officiated my friend’s wedding, Diane was a first time bride at 58, and I married her.  Officiating a wedding is quite a departure from my normal day job. The backstory is so romantic the New York Times covered it.  A little over a year ago my friend, Diane,.

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Are you Measuring the Least Important Reality?

Organizations operate on two levels. There are the presenting facts and metrics, these are readily observed and measured.   Then there are the nuances, the attitude of the players, their focus, or lack thereof, the details and daily conversations.  These seemingly behind the scenes subtleties are what makes or breaks.

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Why Avoiding Conflict Prolongs It

Do you like conflict?  Most people don’t. But sometimes, trying to keep the peace simply prolongs the problem. I was working with a leadership team who had problems with the IT department. They were reluctant to openly express their frustrations to the IT leader (their peer) because he was.

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Two Mental Shifts That Will Change Your Life, Immediately

There’s your life, and there’s the way you process your life.  We all have an outside life and an inside life.  While the events of our life are happening, there’s a parallel interior talk track accompanying them. Here are two mental shifts that will help you experience more happiness,.

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You Did Not Get Divorced Over a Ham Sandwich

My neighbor thinks his wife divorced him because of a ham sandwich.  He’ll tell anyone who will listen about the crazy woman who left him all because one night, instead of having dinner with the family, he made himself a ham sandwich. That one sandwich ruined 20 years of.

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How to Get Yourself in the Mood to Start Anything

Do you have trouble getting started? Whether it’s writing a report, scoping a big IT project, or simply welling up the energy to clean out your closet, many of us procrastinate because we’re simply not in the mood to start. As a writer, I’m well acquainted with the perils.

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2 Reasons So Many People are Reluctant to Be Positive

Is there an incentive to be friendly?   For many people, there are actually more incentives to be negative. Recently, we were working with a client who was trying to improve their customer service.   Despite training, continual prompting and incentives, several team members were reluctant to be positive..

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Venting Doesn’t Release Negativity – It Rehearses It

It starts with the speeches. You know, the little speech you rehearse in your head, getting ready for the big moment when you finally let them have it. Perhaps you practice it in the shower or your car. Or perhaps you share your frustration with others. Maybe it’s the.

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13 Awkward Situations at Work and How to Deal with Them (Head On)

Have you ever found yourself in an awkward situation at work? We all have, whether it’s what to say when your colleague beats you out for a promotion or dealing with a smelly co-worker. When LinkedIn Learning asked my partner Elizabeth Lotardo and me to create the course:  Navigating.

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