Friends of mine recently celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary. While you can never really be inside someone else’s marriage, this couple seems happy. Not gushing PDA besotted. But during the entire time I’ve know them, they always smile when they say the other person’s name. That’s the “tell.”
Pay attention to the look on someone’s face when they say their partner’s name, and you can probably guess how they feel about their marriage. My friend’s anniversary got me thinking about why some marriages work and other’s don’t.
I have no moral judgment about divorce. I’ve been married for about a zillion years myself, and like most marriages, there have been some lows. As I look at the friends we’ve known since college, their divorce rate matches the 50% average. If years ago someone had taken bets on which couples would go the distance, I’m sure my husband and I with our 9-year age difference, wildly different backgrounds and less than ideal childhood models would have been long odds. We lasted, while some of the most seemingly compatible couples divorced, as did some of the most romantic couples. As I look at the couples still together, who also seem to like each other, I realize, it’s not lack of love that causes you to split. It’s the practical things that cause you to lose your love. Here are three areas where differing expectations can break a marriage:
Differing expectations about meals creates daily arguments and resentment. When you agree – be it Sam’s Club or gourmet – meals become joyful.
There are lots of ways to have a happy life; long-term marriage is not for everyone. If you want a partnership, get aligned on the practical matters so romance can survive.
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